Over the past decade, as Marc and I have gradually worked with hundreds of our course students, coaching clients, and live event attendees, we've come to understand that the root cause of most human stress is simply our stubborn propensity to hold on to things. In a nutshell, we hold on tight to the hope that things will go exactly as we imagine, and then we complicate our lives to no end when they don't.
So how can we stop holding on?
By realizing that there's nothing to hold on to in the first place.
Most of the things we desperately try to hold on to, as if they're real, solid, everlasting fixtures in our lives, aren't really there. Or if they are there in some form, they're changing, fluid, impermanent, or simply imagined in our minds.
Life gets a lot easier to deal with when we understand this.
Imagine you're blindfolded and treading water in the center of a large swimming pool, and you're struggling desperately to grab the edge of the pool that you think is nearby, but really it's not-it's far away. Trying to grab that imaginary edge is stressing you out, and tiring you out, as you splash around aimlessly trying to holding on to something that isn't there.
Now imagine you pause, take a deep breath, and realize that there's nothing nearby to hold on to. Just water around you. You can continue to struggle with grabbing at something that doesn't exist... or you can accept that there's only water around you, and relax, and float.
In our new book, Getting Back to Happy: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Reality, and Turn Your Trials into Triumphs, Marc and I guide readers through the process of letting GO.
And no, it's not easy. One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go-whether it's guilt, anger, love or loss. Change is never easy-you fight to hold on and you fight to let go. But letting go is oftentimes the healthiest path forward. It clears out toxic attachments from the past and paves the way to make the most positive use of the present.
You've got to emotionally free yourself from some of the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.
Let us show you HOW.
Also, if you haven't done so already, watch our very relevant interview on Megyn Kelly TODAY, where we discuss our personal journey of letting go, to move our lives forward:
Honestly, that interview was a pleasure. The feedback from people, near and far, has been nothing short of inspiring. We are sincerely humbled and grateful. :)
And, of course, we went on Megyn Kelly's show because our new book, Getting Back to Happy, is finally available to the masses (at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and pretty much wherever books are sold). Ordering it today helps us out tremendously. We would GREATLY APPRECIATE YOUR SUPPORT. Please order the book for yourself. Please, INVEST IN YOURSELF TODAY...
Take the time you need to get your mind right.
Seriously, if you are struggling in some way right now, do you best to keep in mind that although it might not seem so, better days are coming. The test always comes before the merit. The struggle always proceeds the strength. You have to endure breakdowns to break through them. Take it one day at a time, and trust the journey. It will make sense soon.
Learn to let GO...
And keep in mind that letting go isn't about having the ability and courage to release the past-it's about having the wisdom and strength to embrace the present. It's not about forgetting-it's about remembering without fear. It's stepping forward, untethered, with a present mind and a lesson learned.
Please, let us walk beside you on your journey. Everything we've learned in the past decade of coaching and teaching others how to build a happier life is distilled into Getting Back to Happy. Never before have we put it all in one place like this in such an accessible way.
In fact, here's a sneak peek of the table of contents, so you can get an idea of what Getting Back to Happy has to offer:
>> Rituals: Practice Daily What You Want To Manifest Regularly
>> Mindfulness: Ease Out of Busyness and Into Awareness
>> Letting Go: Surrender Attachments that Are Holding You Back
>> Self-Love: Commit to Putting Yourself on Your To-Do List
>> Mornings & Evenings: Establish Control with a Thoughtful Beginning and End to Every Day
>> Perspective: Find Beauty in Life's Difficulties
>> Situation: Embrace Change and Take Action When Necessary
>> Motivation: Harness Your Inner Drive and Keep Moving Forward
>> Relationships: Foster the Loving Connections You Deserve
>> Happiness: Nurture an Inner and Outer Environment that Fulfills You
And did you know Alyssa Milano, the renowned actress and activist, wrote the foreword?
When we reached out to Alyssa and shared the idea and outline for Getting Back to Happy with her, she immediately said "yes" to writing the foreword. Why? Because our work has made a positive difference in her life over the course of many years. In her own words:
"In my own journey to uncover who I truly am, and to find-and use-my voice for what I believe in, I've been lucky enough to meet many kindred spirits along the way, many of them online. Marc and Angel are among the fellow travelers I've come to value the most. Their honesty and clarity, and the generous way they share what they've learned for themselves, are gifts I've truly cherished. Sharing their ideas with others online is a way of paying forward what I've learned, in the hope that others will gain some insight and strength, and in turn spread the word even further. The pain of self-doubt and the isolation of modern life can make us feel like we're the only ones struggling, while everyone else is picture-perfect. That's why it's so important to share not just our triumphs but also our setbacks, to "show our work" when we're in the thick of tough times. Marc and Angel do just that - keeping it real, and creating a community of kindred spirits that gathers together in strength, growing and learning along the way." - Alyssa Milano, from the Foreword of Getting Back to Happy
As you can tell, we're sincerely excited to finally share Getting Back to Happy with you, so we're also giving away over $50 in bonuses to the first 3,500 people that order the book today (including One Day at a Time, our 60-day workbook for implementing rewarding, lifelong rituals, and Daily Reminders We Need to Read Every Morning, with prompts that guide you to start each day in a mindful state, so you can focus and get the right things done). You'll want to act quickly, though, because we already have 3,447 orders booked as of this morning. :)
Order Getting Back to Happy and get your free bonuses right now.
Finally, if you haven't done so already, check out the official book trailer for Getting Back to Happy:
And of course, if there's anything else Marc and I can do assist you, please don't hesitate to email us or leave a comment on our blog.
PS. Reviews help us out tremendously. Once you get your book, please leave us an honest, constructive, positive review on Amazon. We would be forever grateful to you.
July/August - 2018
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